What is Keeping Women from Being Successful?

It’s been confirmed that in the past weeks, two articles were noticeable and spread everywhere, on facebook and twitter: “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” by Anne-Marie Slaughter, and “The Busy Trap” by Tim Kreider. Kate Taylor, on Forbes said after reading “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” left her with mixed feelings. However, while reading “The Busy Trap” on her iPhone in a crowded sports bar, an event she squeezed in between her brunch plans and a running date, her true issues with Slaughter’s article clicked.

Slaughter’s declaration was respected and it’s very true that women will not have time in the day to do everything they feel they should at work and home and it’s not just the women problem. Evidently in business and also at work women face exceptional confront including the salary difference and the unspecified role of homemaker. Though, when we talk about “having it all,” both the genders have dissatisfaction as they are equipped with loads of work and with very less time. In fact the time doesn’t permit them to relax.

In a society it’s always said, for either of the gender being busy is to be successful. But, the question arises for both the gender, are they content likewise. Do, they do the similar kind of jobs, do they take care of their home as well as work.

In “The Busy Trap: Kreider states “Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice; it is as indispensable to the brain as vitamin D is to the body, and deprived of it we suffer a mental affliction as disfiguring as ricket.” Kreider’s explanation/ solution is to work hard—harder for long four to five hours and then give quality time for relaxation.

Kreider’s conviction that this business is self-imposed but it’s quite unbelievable. Let suppose during the working hours somebody wants to go for a bike ride with a friend, it’s just not possible, until and unless he/she is happy getting fired.  In America it’s mostly found that Americans, work to make money for themselves and their families. It’s not true that employees those who come from the privilege position can cut down on their working hours. It’s like the grass is always greener on the other side, the no –executives think people working at the highest levels enjoy liberty and freedom. They not only sustain, but can be extremely successful but it’s not true. They have their own responsibilities and goals and somebody above them to instruct always.

Today’s working women are more committed and are growing in numbers. Now, they are not just homemakers but they deliver lectures, witness corporate board meetings, and also raise a family added to its job works. It’s very true that women’s hard working day never ends. We cannot just erase from our memory the nature of work that Slaughter did.  She had long working hours + wrote books + gave lectures + visited schools for parent teacher conferences and meetings. Her list of work was never ending and was totally divided for household and for office.

It’s been witnessed if work life grows lists of events and responsibilities increases and thus home life suffers. There are hundreds of articles  which states, mother who can’t feed, can’t come home on time for dinner are mad mothers. So, these are the events that are added to the basic necessities of child care and this can be attained by working as a full timer. For working parents going home early is always on the priority lists. Upbringing of a child can be done by both the working parents or even with one working parent.  For working parents compromising is a must from both the ends, that is parents and the children.

“Having it all” is really hard to get. It’s important to give quality time not only to one’s professional life but also towards personal life. Taking care of their kids and their upbringing is really important. We should see to that the kids are never lonely. There is nothing better than grandparent love and them taking care of their grandchildren. 

Suggestions flow from every end. We have to start realizing our priorities and need to burn out complete dissatisfaction. Busyness may not be as self-imposed, but it is certainly destructive.  We need to find more ways to be productive in the office and at home and this in turn will help us and our company. Being flexible is quite a good choice and it increases our job satisfaction and performance. Pressurized people stand nowhere. They are neither good at work not at home.  To achieve our target goals we really need to be happy. We should not believe in that, working mothers should just work as soon as they entered office. Women shouldn’t be compared with men in regard to hour of work .Rather than women should show more commitment towards work, enjoy networking and follow the footsteps of earlier leaders. So, assess what is vital and what is just busy work. If you generate some freedom in the business of life to promote the relationships that matter most, instead of going through the motions, you’ll attain your own unique equilibrium of achievement.